About the only thing you will ever know for sure about me is that I am your mom. Because when children see their mother, they usually only see that part of her that does the actual mothering stuff.
Cradle your newborn in your arms and from that moment forward your identity wraps itself around that little baby.
Diapering and feeding become the most important events in your day, mainly because they take place in rapid succession. Even being able to use the bathroom alone becomes a challenge. For months you are not just enamored with this little creature, but engulfed in the overwhelming details of life with a baby.
Going outside to get the mail while the baby is napping actually makes you feel like you’ve jumped bail. Heaven knows how giddy you become when your husband watches the baby so you can grocery shop on your own.
Just fast-forward a few years, and you are still quite wrapped up in your identity as a mother to this creature, and perhaps to subsequent babies you have given birth to.
Kiss your identity goodbye for a while.
Lest you think that your mother doesn’t have a life besides you, think again. My life may not be filled with Hollywood premiers, book signings, and trips to Vegas, but it’s an awesome one all the same.
Never in my life would I have imagined that motherhood would be my favorite thing in life.
Only there is so much more that you can’t see. Probably can’t even imagine.
Quasi-mom stuff that I think about doing one day. Reaching my limits; taking some chances. See, parts of my life have only just begun.
Try and imagine that we are friends, and we’ve just met in one of your classes. Underneath the exterior of your mother, there is a fun-loving person who once was a young person like you.
Visualize it, if you can.
What would you think of me, if you could see that I am not only your mother, but someone who has other interests and desires, maybe places to travel?
Xian, maybe, or perhaps just a visit to Australia?
You think I am relegated to just being your mom?
Ziti pasta in a small village in Italy may be on my calendar one day.