For Better or for What?

Today is my 24th wedding anniversary.

There must be some mistake, since I used to think only old people could have been married this long.

We have now been married longer than we were single. It blows my mind.

People often ask hubs and I, “What’s your secret?” which then leads to an awkward silence, since we aren’t really sure we have one.

The more I thought about it, I realized that the real marriage secrets to success are pretty simple. Sure, the marriage counselors and divorce lawyers would love for us to think otherwise. But I think I found the secrets just by studying the pictures in my wedding album.

Once I dusted it off.

Simple Secrets to Marriage Success

1. Always smile and listen when your spouse is telling you something that in no way pertains to the event or situation you are currently in. Like the wife who explains kitchen paint colors in great detail during a sudden-death overtime NHL game. This obviously pertains to the picture above, where hubs is clearly explaining to me how great the donuts were at the coffee shop that morning and that he changed the oil in his car last night.

2. Surround yourselves with friends who like to have fun. Being around other goofy people has always brought out the best in our marriage.

3. It’s not always all about you. Sometimes you need to take a back seat and let someone else take the wheel for a while.

4. When you’re feeling rather cranky and a fight may be brewing? Get some food. Sometimes the only thing between you and an epic battle with the spouse is a big plate of mashed potatoes.

5. Be careful what you throw. That pelting with 15 bags of rice may have stung a bit, but the wrong words thrown at a loved one can leave scars for a very long time.

6. When words fail you, there’s nothing better than a good old-fashioned kiss.

So to my wonderfully patient, funny, supportive, loving, and handsome husband…a very Happy 24th Anniversary!

I can’t wait for the next 24.

Giving Thanks

Have you ever been thankful….

  • that you made it to the hospital in time? Before it was too late?
  • for the faint, pink line on the little plastic stick?
  • for the skinned knee, since it brings a chance to hug and heal?
  • for the plastic Lego you stepped on, because it meant someone was having fun?
  • for the people in your life who have become like family?
  • to hear the quietness of your home in the middle of the night, even though you couldn’t sleep?
  • that you drove miles and miles to be there, because you knew you needed to be?
  • that you remembered to tell someone you loved them? Before it was too late?
  • that little girls who aren’t so little can still get excited about a new Christmas dress?
  • for the socks on the floor, because soon they won’t be there anymore?
  • that the wonderful man next to you is snoring, because it means he’s alive and home?
  • for the dinner you ruined, because it gave you a chance to show your children that failure isn’t lethal?
  • for the wisdom of the little ones in your life?
  • for the lines on your face, made with years of smiles and laughter?
  • for yourself, and what you bring to the lives of others?

This week, think of what you are thankful for, and pass it along. It just might mean the world to someone.